When people first begin dating each other everything it’s usually great. There’s flirting, laughing and before long, kissing and sex. Then, you spend time texting one another and calling. But then when one person in the relationship begins to show too much interest or say they really like you, everything goes awry. In part that’s due to humans who are creatures that love the chase. Yet the moment the hunt is over, most appear to lose enthusiasm. It helps paint the story of why many people get turned off whenever someone shows them too much interest.
In all fairness, there are those who pull away out of fear of being hurt. This is especially true for people who have already gone through negative experiences in previous relationships. Experts on the subject say that some people spurn others as a defense mechanism. Still, there are those who reject others for totally different reasons. They do so because the other person being too interested in them makes it seem as if they are desperate. Secondly, a lot of people don’t want to go out with a person who appears to be too needy.
Similarly, being too clingy can make it seem as if the other person has very little going on in their own life. So instead, they become attached to yours. Relationship experts point out that some people push others away for intimacy issues. Past problems with previous partners may trigger these thoughts and actions. For individuals who find themselves pulling away from those who show too much interest, they need to be careful. Doctors advise that they may fall into a trap where only those who reject them or treat them in uncaring fashion become attractive to them.
They also point out that real relationships take time to develop. Often, things that upset you today may not bother you later on. For instance, if he or she answers your with more than two or three text messages. Or if they call you a few times during the day and so on. The irony of it all is that those who reject people for showing them too much attention, will one day crave it from someone else. Worse yet, that person will pull away from them for the same reasons they did to someone else. And that’s the wonderful world of love.